During the worst times of your life, you will see the authentic colors of the people who say they love and care about you.
Life is undoubtedly complex, but one thing that makes those most difficult, challenging periods worth it is that they always reveal the truth. Whether it is the beginning of a new journey, a terrible loss, or a change of heart, one thing is sure.
Tough times open our eyes and confront us with reality. And sometimes, even though we cannot see, these transformations can be true blessings in disguise. People say that during the worst times of your life, you will see the true colors of the individuals who say they care about you. And honestly, I couldn’t agree more.
If you are going through the same right now, do not despair. This might be a lot to take in now, but it is true. Whatever is happening, I want you to know that you deserve more. You, my friend, deserve someone who needs you in their life, not someone who only sees you as an option.
Here are seven signs that you are in a relationship with a person who does not deserve you:
Sign #1. They make you doubt yourself. They make you feel less like nobody. Nothing you do is ever enough for them. The only thing you think when you are around them is self-pity, which is a big red flag.
Sign #2. They lie to you. You feel it in your gut. They do not always tell you the truth. Instead, they do their best to cover the fact with silly, childish excuses that even a kid would find suspicious. This is a sign that you should stop and reevaluate this relationship.
Sign #3. They do not have time for you. Other people are always more important than you. Friends, family, and even colleagues all come before you. If this is something that has been going on for a long time, it is time to put a stop to it.
Sign #4. You feel like you give more than what you receive. They treat you like a doormat. They use you. You are open to sharing every part of your life with them, but they are not ready to reciprocate. For some reason, they do not. You are the only one who always sacrifices and fights for your relationship.
Sign #5. They want to change you. Mold you into a person that will perfectly fit their ideals. And you are letting them. You are allowing them to turn you into someone you are not. If this is the case, stop it before you lose yourself completely. You are enough. You do not need to change to make someone happy.
Sign #6. You do not feel like you can rely on them for help. You are lying if you know your partner will not be there for you when you need him or her the most. Confront them while you still have time. The sooner you do it, the better off you will be.
Sign #7. You feel insecure around them. You are worthy of more than you can imagine. You cannot see it. You cannot see your worth because of them. Do not let yourself lose your identity over anyone. You deserve someone who needs you, loves you, and cares for you, not someone who only sees you as an option. You deserve someone who gives you strength, not takes it away from you.
Cap-Off Statement
We always see characters from fairy tales saying they are trying to find their true love, but the question is, what are the true colors of love? Some might say it is the perfect likeness of a rainbow; others might say it is colorless.
As Raymond Quattlebaum wrote in his book, The Color Of Love, love is the most powerful emotion in the universe. God is Unconditional Love. Humanity is the offspring of God’s love in human reality. The Color Of Love is a book of poetry. At the same time, it is a romance book. Once you have read the book, you cannot afford to stop reading. You will become very much involved and find the book quite interesting and not want to put it down and wind up buying it out of satisfaction and content.
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