When you hear the word “relationship,” you can get different reactions from people. Some may say that it is scary while others may say that it is the best thing in the world. If you try to think about it, romantic relationships are like humans, they go to various stages of growth. It all depends on the couple whether to continue lifting each other up or constantly drag one another down. Well, the latter can be unintentional.
In this generation, many have already loved and lost. You have probably seen a long break-up post on social media, heard the news of separation from your close friend, knew the divorce of a relative, or experienced the heartbreak yourself. These are some of the situations that are common today. But, those are all normal and are part of life. What is not normal are playing with other people’s feelings, hurting them intentionally, and keeping an unhealthy relationship.
There are many mediums where you can get great insights when it comes to why you should take it slowly. Most of them are in books where there are millions of stories that talk about different kinds of relationships, such as the book for the faithful who are flying solo by Drayton titled The Two Sides of Being Single: A Biblical Perspective. You can also turn to others who already experienced being in a relationship.
But what could be the reasons behind why you shouldn’t rush into a relationship? Here’s why.
Give you more time for self-love
Self-love is often taken for granted by many. There are a lot of people who often forget to love themselves first while there are also individuals who are still learning this particular type of love. Being in a relationship is demanding. You have to allocate some of your time, attention, effort, and other resources just to make another person feel special. There are tendencies that you will lose yourself in the process, which can turn into a red flag.
You should always love yourself first before anybody else. Because if you don’t, how can you give it to others? Would you be certain that what you are dedicating is genuine affection or just obsession? So, focus on yourself first and trust the process.
Know what you want in a person
Everyone has their ideal type. But, that can change as time passes by. When you start to mature, your preferences change. The dream guy that you wanted to meet when you were sixteen might not be the same ideal man that you want when you turn twenty-one. There will also be times that someone will try to win your heart and is the epitome of a perfect dude, from looks to attitude, but your heart doesn’t beat for him.
What I’m trying to say is that be true to your feelings. Don’t jump into a relationship because you feel pressured, alone, or left out because you’ll end up hurting another person. Be in a relationship because you’ve found the qualities that you want in a person, which you are willing to invest your time and affection without asking anything in return.
Save yourself from heartbreak
When you love someone, you are vulnerable to pain. If you have had your heartbroken, you sure don’t want to be in that situation again. So, do not rush things out. If everyone around you already found their soul mates or your ex-partner already found a new love, take your time to fully heal. The pain that you have felt can turn into a lesson that love is risky. Hence, save yourself from another or future heartbreak by taking baby steps until you are fully ready to commit to another relationship.
Focus on other things in life
Sometimes when you are in love, you tend to leave a lot of things behind for the sake of that special person. If you are single and is you think that the world is conspiring against you, then take that negative energy by directing it to other things and activities that can help you grow. You will never know that you will find love in the middle of exploring new things and focusing on life.
The Damsel’s Files 