Family is the greatest treasure of a person. Sometimes it can either make or break you because they give and make you love so much that it is scary to lose any of them. Family is the most significant influence on kids, for they become the children’s role model and hero as they grow up. Hence, what you show to your younger family members can create a huge impact on their lives because they will take your actions as positive and acceptable. So, you should really be careful about keeping it real with them.
However, there are times that family becomes the weapon that scars you for some time in your life. Alternate Reality is a book that documents how the family made a great difference in the life of Steve Ross as he grows up; although, it is more of a dysfunctional family book instead of a functional good relationship book by Steve Ross. Hence, it will also make you appreciate your family better and empathize with those who, unluckily, haven’t had a great bond with their family.
How could one cultivate a healthy family relationship anyway? Here are some tips on how.
Do not forget to keep the communication running
Imagine living in a home where everyone is busy minding their own business and not bother talking at all. That is already a red flag that points out that there is already something wrong with your bond. Always strive to keep your communication open. Ask them how their day went when they get back home, share with them about your little progress on school or work, compliment them on the good that they do, and correct them on the bad things that they committed. Whether it is through random conversations during meals, little chitchats in the living room, casual messages via text, or occasional phone calls, the bottom line is that never forget to connect with them in any way that you can.
Allocate a day in your week to be spent on your family
You may have overlooked the value of quality time because you are busy working hard to give your family the best life. But, start clearing your schedule and allocate at least a day or more to be spent with your family. Set aside your work or studies and prioritize them. You’ll never know how big of a difference it can make. This is a great chance to strengthen the foundation of your relationship, make up for the times that you’ve grown apart, get to know their new passion, and support their goals. Having a bonding moment with your family also boosts their confidence and makes them have a positive outlook in life because they feel loved and cared.
Show them you love them using your love language
People are different in many ways, especially in showing their affection towards those that they love. There are those who express their love through words while there are others that are more comfortable in showing it through actions. Express your love to them using your love language, they will soon notice and understand it, which makes them appreciate you more. In that way, they will be motivated and dedicated to doing their tasks and errands knowing that there are people who care for them and giving them reasons to do better. This will surely make your family stronger and more connected to one another since love is an essential ingredient to a happy family.
Support them on the things that they are passionate about
Passion is intimate and a big deal for many individuals. Despite the fact that there are those who set aside their passion for practicality, that fire will never be put out and will continue burning inside. Your family members may have a passion that they are scared to pursue, such as dancing, art, literature, public speaking, and such. All you have to do is to show them your love and support to make them feel motivated and inspired. This will surely make them feel more comfortable to share their thoughts and struggles with you, which is a great opportunity to strengthen your relationship and keep a healthy family.
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